24 Week Update

Hi all! I hope you are all doing fantastic and enjoying the lovely winter weather! Is it just me or have we been having a mild winter in Toronto?

I’m officially at 24 weeks pregnant. 15 Weeks and 3 days to go! How scary is that? I’ve started thinking about all the things that I need to get ready and I’m stressing! How do you get things ready when you have a clingy, whiny, beautiful, hungry, active 1.5 year old running around and holding your legs? Answer so far – you don’t!

We found out in our last ultrasound that we’re having another boy (could you tell from the ultrasound? Cheeky boy) which is super exciting. We of course were secretly, not so secretly, hoping that it would be a girl and this would be it, but we’re thrilled to have another little boy running around. I have already learned how to physically care for a male infant and toddler, I have boxes and boxes and bags and bags of clothes (thank you to all my hand-me-down saviours) and I think that it may be helpful for them to be the same sex so that they play together better and longer. Less toys? Maybe we’ll try for a girl in a few years, you never know. For now, it’s up to my little sister to create the next Malaquias female.

SO how is baby? Baby is doing pretty good! At this time he is the size of a cantaloupe and his skin is starting to take on a more pinkish colour to it (thanks Bump App). He’s in the 76th percentile, which is important to us because our doctors were concerned that he may be at risk for a low birth rate due to my low PAPP-A hormone results. PAPP-A is a hormone that they have recently begun regularly screening all mothers for – they see it low in mothers who develop pre-eclampsia, placentas that don’t work well or have babies with low birth weight and/or growth restrictions. He’s moving tons! I am definitely not forgetting that he is around anymore. He likes to move when he hears Tiago crying or whining, how cute is that! He also tells me to change positions throughout the night when he’s done lying on one side too much.

One thing that we are slightly concerned about is that his kidneys are a little larger than average, medically termed hydronephrosis. This is because there is a buildup of urine in the kidneys that is dilating them. This can happen for two reasons: there is a slight defect or my own relaxin hormones are surging through his body and causing his organs to relax as well. If the former, the issue could resolve on its own prior to birth, could still be present at birth and resolve within a few weeks, or, in the worst scenarios require antibiotics or even surgery to treat. Of course i’m hoping for the absolute best, and in the meantime I need to continue with ultrasounds once per month to continue monitoring them and me!

“And how’s mama?”
“Oh I’m fine!”
“no really??”
Ya, i’m actually doing alright. I have a few issues that i’m dealing with myself but for the most part everything is normal.

With the low PAPP-A hormone, i’m also being monitored by the High Risk Clinic (on top of the midwives and the endocrinologist) as they want to ensure my placenta is functioning properly at all times. Happy to report that it presently is and is, in fact, pumping lots of blood to baby, more on one side, but still an ample and sufficient amount. Good results!

I’m now starting to have braxton hicks, which is something I experienced in my first pregnancy and they told me would only get worse with each pregnancy as I have an overactive uterus. I basically have the tightest stomach for hours every evening making everything I do extremely uncomfortable.

My TSH (Thyroid Stimulating Hormone) has gone up to 2.11 from 1.07 in the last month which is causing some serious tiredness to set it quite early in the day, like 10 AM. ugh. I recently bought a Hashimoto’s Cookbook on Amazon that i’m really looking forward to trying out. I need to seriously curb back on my gluten and dairy intake for these next three months (well, forever) if i’m going to make it through them.

Anyways, that’s all for now!

Travelling with Frozen Breastmilk

Last summer I travelled to Europe with my 3-month-old and I was still breastfeeding. To be more specific, I was exclusively pumping, which meant that there was a lot of breastmilk waiting to be consumed. I was really nervous that the flight over would somehow impact my supply. I get really dehydrated when I travel on planes and I had a feeling that my supply would dip. At this point in my pumping journey I was pumping every 3 hours to ensure I had enough milk for my bebe. When I arrived I began pumping right away and put myself on a 2-3 hour pumping schedule to ensure that my supply kept up with my bebe’s demands. Well, that resulted in a huge overproduction that I really didn’t need to establish. The good thing that came out of it is that I had about 250oz of frozen breast milk by the time I was scheduled to return home – about a month later.

I considered donating the milk while I was still in Europe, but the red tape around doing so and the amount of work that would have gone into researching and bringing it to a collection site was just too much for me at that point. Besides, my baby could use the milk too. I decided that I was going to attempt bringing the milk back to Canada with me. Below you will see how I successfully brought 250oz of frozen breastmilk back home: in my checked luggage, across an ocean, 15 hours outside of a freezer.

Before I begin, I should mention that if you live in the United States, you might be able to benefit from breastmilk shipping services. I haven’t used any of these, and they cost money, but if you’re able to spend on shipping breastmilk, then it may save you some unnecessary stress. You can ship with the following companies:
Milk Stork
Maven Clinic (they even have international shipping kits to check your milk)

Required Materials:

Step 1: Organizing your frozen milk

  • Put your frozen breastmilk bags into one of the large ziploc freezer bags.
  • It’s important to maximize space, so organizing them so that each other one is facing a different direction (up or down) should help you save space.
  • You want to get as close as possible to a rectangle shape.

Step 2: Preparing the Freezer/Cooler Bags

  • In order to ensure that your freezer bags keep in the cold, you want to line them with aluminum foil. You can do this twice if you prefer. Ensure you get all sides lined with aluminum foil and the corners as well so as to ensure no cold air escapes. This doesn’t need to be perfect, but you want to do your best to ensure your precious milk stays frozen. I used small bits of duct tape to ensure that the aluminum foil didn’t come off.
  • After the aluminum foil has been added, use your ice sheets and line the freezer bag as well. You may need to cut the ice sheets to size. Ensure that all sides have some ice and that you also have some to go on top.
  • If you’re using dry ice, I would likely put the ice in after step #3 to ensure that the freezer bags are well cushioned with ice.

Step 3: Place your breastmilk in the insulated thermal bags

  • If you can find insulated thermal bags, this is ideal, but if not, wrap each freezer bag with aluminum a couple times.
  • Insert each freezer bag into the thermal bag and close, then seal with some duct tape to ensure no cold air escapes.

Step 4: Fill in empty space

  • This step is really important because you want to ensure that there is minimal airflow inside the freezer bag.
  • Once you have put in as much frozen milk as possible, add another ice sheet on top.
  • After this, get your magazines out and begin ripping out pages.
  • I recommend magazines, specifically, because they are less likely to absorb any moisture that comes from the cold ice packs and therefore will repel the cold as opposed to absorbing it like regular paper would.
  • Scrunch them up and start stuffing them into the bag to fill in all empty spaces.
  • You may need to remove the top ice sheet to ensure you have everything and then replace it.
  • Ensure there are magazine sheets on top of the ice sheet as well.

Step 5: Close and seal your freezer bag

  • Once you have added your bags, your ice and your magazines, kiss your breastmilk goodbye and wish it luck.
  • Zip up your freezer bag.
  • Apply duct tape around the zipper. This ensures that no air escapes through the small holes in the zipper. I also duct tape around my duct tape to make sure it’s extra secure.

Step 6: Add to your checked baggage

  • Add the bags to your checked luggage suitcases.
  • Put some clothing items around each bag to ensure that they are not damaged or bumped in the transportation process.

Final Thoughts and Recommendations:

  • This method is not guaranteed to work, but it did for me.
  • If you can, prepare your bags the night before your flight and then put them back in the freezer to ensure everything reaches the same freezing temperature together.
  • Each freezer bag weighed about 25 – 30 lbs. You may need to purchase another suitcase and/or more luggage weight in order to bring your milk back. Check with your airlines on weight restrictions.
  • You may find that one or more of the outermost breastmilk bags have slightly started to defrost. I would take those out and use those in your baby’s next few bottles over the 24 hours after you arrive back home. I had about 5 individual bags that I felt were starting to defrost so I thawed them out and used them.
  • If any milk has defrosted, you cannot refreeze them. Use them in bottles, or use them to give yourself and your baby a relaxing and nourishing breastmilk bath. You deserve it after all that travelling!
  • Do some research on your home countries regulations around bringing breastmilk home. You shouldn’t have any problems with this, as most airlines and governments are very good about allowing mothers to travel with breastmilk. Still, it doesn’t hurt to be very well informed about your rights. Print out copies of government and airline regulations or save them to your phone so you can use them if you come up against any obstacles.

How I play with my 8-month old

Let’s face it, many days with a baby can be downright boring! The first six months, at least for me, were all about recovery, sleep, and survival. My little one wasn’t doing much playing. He was pretty much eating and sleeping, sleeping and eating; while I was mastering the art of exclusive pumping and bottle feeding. Since he started rolling around though, there has been a considerable less amount of sleeping and a whole lot more entertainment required.

There are many days that I find myself stuck at home with nowhere to go. I live out in the suburbs – where a car is required for pretty much any venture out of the house. While the weather was still warm, we would go for a walk around the neighbourhood, but now that winter is here, we are pretty much cuddled indoors always. It’s also just me and the Bebe most of the time, so it’s important that I’m also enjoying myself as much as possible. My hardest and most tiring days are those on which I find myself surrounded with boredom and house tasks. I have learned to get a little creative with our activities in order to help us pass the time.

Below are some of the things that Bebe and I do to keep ourselves entertained. Most of these activities are probably already part of your routine, but if you alter them just a bit, you should be good to get them to last anywhere between 20 – 30 minutes. Note that we definitely do not do all of these activities in one day. I try to spread them out so that Bebe doesn’t get too bored of things and I don’t have to come up with new activities.

Car Watching: Bebe loves to wake up in the morning and stare out the window watching cars go by and neighbourhood kids go off to school. We can do this for a pretty solid 15 minutes! I’m usually the one that gets bored of this activity first.

Eating: We take our time eating. I try to make our mealtimes last at least 20 – 30 minutes by playing little games while eating and/or holding back some of the food. I’m doing half/half puree and baby led weaning so Bebe is often getting little bits of food put on his plate. I know from too many scary episodes that he can’t have everything on his plate at once or he’ll put it all in his mouth, so going slow helps a lot.

Cat Watching: Bebe T loves our cat, Judaea. He loves to watch him walk around the house and do his thing, but he loves it more when Judaea is playing with a toy or cuddling with mama. We try to do this as often as possible, but at least once a day, as baby Jude is definitely feeling left out most of the time.

Couch Climbing: T loves to be put on the couch and crawl as fast as possible from one end to the other. He finds it so funny to be up there and goes back and forth at least ten times. We do this multiple times a day.

Roomba Chasing: This one is extra fun because not only is it entertaining, but it’s getting some housework done at the same time. I put the Roomba on and let Bebe T chase it all along the main floor.

Laundry Folding: Also a productive one. Bebe T likes to pull clothes out of baskets, so I often bring up a load of laundry to be folded and do it with him. He definitely undoes a lot of my work, but it extends the activity. I also like to think that he’s learning about housework while we are doing this.

Dance Party: Bebe T loves music and he loves to watch me dance around the house. I’ll put on some of my favourite tunes and start dancing away while he watches or I’ll pick him up and we’ll dance together. Extra credit for a Youtube Zumba class!

Floor Workout: Similar to the dance party, T seems to find it funny when I do some floor level workouts, such as pushups and leg raises or yoga. I don’t always feel like doing this activity but it’s good once it gets going. I’m hoping that one day he will join me.

Watching the News: I know it’s screen time, but whatever! He’s going to watch TV at some point. This helps keep me up-to-date and it gets another voice in the house. T is really into this one, of course.

Bath Time: I definitely don’t do this one every day, unless I have to. I don’t think that soap and cleansing your skin is necessary on a daily basis unless you are obviously dirty and stinky. T loves the water though so I’ve moved him into the big tub where he can move around and splash more.

Reading: T loves a good cuddle and reading. He definitely has his favourite books. To keep it entertaining for me I will: read the book backward, in funny voices and accents, or sing it like a song.

Napping: This one is my personal favourite. We nap together, and by together I mean, cuddled up in bed. I try to do this for at least one of his naps per day. It’s a great bonding and skin-to-skin opportunity. Best of all, it allows me to get some rest and I find that he often naps for 1.5 hours as opposed to his regular 40-minute session.

Playing with Toys: when we play with toys, I like to get down on the ground with him and play too. He can, and definitely does, play on his own, but I think it’s extra fun for him when I get involved. I like to: stack lots of his toys on top of each other for him to knock down; roll balls around and at him, in hopes he’ll roll it back to me; make teddy bears talk (he LOVES this); hides his toys and help him find them; put them all away in his basket so he can take them all out again.

There you have it! Keep doing a great job Mama!

Must-Haves, Not Needed & Wished I Had: 0-6 months

Below are a few of my favourite products, must-haves, wishes and a list of things I really didn’t need for a newborn, up to 6 months!

Let’s start with the must haves!

Baby Brezza Sterilizer: If you are using bottles, you need this machine. It’s a fantastic stand-alone sterilizer. There are definitely cheaper sterilizers that you can get, but I would say swing for top quality if this is something you are going to be using all the time. I sterilized my bottles daily up until bebe was 7 months. The drying feature in this machine is the best. Have you ever tried drying bottles with just the air or by hand? #timesuck I’m sure there are other machines with a dryer, but seriously, get a machine with a dryer if you are using bottles. You will need distilled water for this machine or the hotplate will get covered in calcium buildup.

Breast Shells/ Milk Savers: These are crucial if you are a breastfeeding mom: nursing or pumping! These have been, hands down, the item that has stopped me from going 100% insane. They catch all the milk that falls during breastfeeding, and if you’ve been following along with my blog, all day for me! I catch about 40ml every 2-3 hours with these and then pour it into a bottle. Get multiple sets so you are not constantly washing and drying and increase their lifespan!

Zipper sleepers: are you using button up sleepers? #stopitnow try a zipper sleeper, you will never go back. I refuse to use button up’s at night. They are a huge pain for you and Bebé when all you want to do is go back to sleep.

Pampers Pure Diapers: I really wanted to use Cloth diapers and spent a fortune on them too. But with the level of exhaustion I was feeling I just couldn’t bring myself to do laundry two times a day… It’s more expensive, but I’m not compromising on quality, baby friendly diapers. Pampers Pure diapers match all of my requirements for a healthy diaper with far fewer chemicals than other brands. They’re comparable to Seventh Generation and Honest. Plus you get rewards with their rewards app! I’m saving up for a starbucks giftcard! Coffee Please! I highly recommend getting an Amazon Family/Prime Account and then getting these on a monthly subscription so you never have to worry about having diapers and you get 20% off!.

Coconut Oil: this is not necessarily a baby product, but I use it for everything! Baby bum, nipples, flanges, dry skin, hair mask, pancakes. It’s so good for you and baby. You want to make sure that you get organic, virgin coconut oil and not any highly processed versions. For baby bum protection, I melt some coconut oil, add into a bottle and then either squeeze it out or keep it warm and liquid by leaving it on top of my wipe warmer.

Wipe Warmer: Imagine you’re lying in bed, cocooned in your warm blankets, maybe someone has just fed you a warm glass of milk and you’ve settled yourself back into a slumber. All of a sudden someone is taking off your clothes and putting a cold wet towel on you. You’d be screaming and crying too right?! Those tears aren’t necessary if you have a wipe warmer! In the first few weeks of having my babe at home, those night time screams were the worst. They were so loud and heartbreaking, but once I got the wipe warmer they turned only into a whimper of being slightly awoken to have his diaper changed. I originally thought “ok, he’ll get used to the cold wipes” but it’s just so much nicer when they are warm.

Pack and Play Play Pen with Bassinet and Change Table: I would recommend purchasing one of these for the floor where you and baby aren’t sleeping. During the day, when you aren’t sleeping yourself, you’re still going to want to have baby close to you and with this playpen, you have the bassinet and change table right there. You won’t need to climb any stairs to get to the nursery, change station or crib.

Baby Brezza Formula Pro: I didn’t need this until just recently (6+ months), but I add it here because if I had been formula feeding at this time, this would have been my #1 BFF. Night feedings, warming up bottles in a bottle warmer, the waiting, the crying, etc. – it’s hard. The formula pro gets it done within seconds. You just press a button and 5 seconds later the bottle is ready. Give it a good shake to ensure everything is mixed and then feed your bebe. Simple. Done. I use this now that baby is getting half his bottles from formula and it is great. There are some people that struggle with this machine, but I find it to be simple and amazing. I’m sure that there are manufacturing duds and you definitely need to shake the bottle once everything has been poured in, but I’ve never had any issues. There are 500+ reviews on the product on Amazon and most of them are great.

Nested Bean Sleep Sack: This really works and when I got it things changed for the better! Bebe would finally sleep on his own in his bassinet for part of the night and napped really well. The light weighted chest is perfect and the stretchy, velcro arm straps hold in even the strongest of startlers! Bebe T would always be waking himself up with his startle reflex and in a regular swaddle, he’d be out of it in minutes. I can’t wait to purchase the 6+ sleep sack!

Below are some of the items I wished I had!

I wish I had purchased the Halo Bassinet, or something similar. The first five weeks, Bebe slept in his Pack & Play bassinet out in our family room, and I slept on the couch. This was mostly because bebe wanted to sleep in my arms and on my chest the whole time. After the first five weeks we transitioned to the bedroom where he slept in the bed beside me. This was terrifying as I was constantly worried about whether he was breathing, not getting too close to him, etc. I think I would have been much better off getting the halo bassinet, sleeping in the bed and positioning the halo so that it was a close as possible to me. Everyone wins!

A rocking chair! My nursery was too small, as we had a queen-sized bed inside, that I wasn’t going to take out because I knew I would be sleeping in that room with the baby. I, therefore, decided not to get a rocking/nursing chair, but I wish I had. I spent a great deal of time on the couch in the living room, sitting on my bed to nurse (in the first 3 weeks) or in an office chair. All of these squishy surfaces did a number of my back.

A Rock and Play Sleeper. Bebe used one of these at a friends house and he went from super hyper to calm and melow in an instant. He calmly lied in this thing for a good 45 minutes! It has some a few different rocking settings and is set at an incline, which is great for those bebes that suffer from reflux, like mine did. I will 100% be buying this for any future babies to enjoy.

Below are a few items I didn’t need:

  • Baby Shoes – babies don’t walk, so you don’t need to waste money, or closet space, on shoes! The only time they are going to need shoes is when they are walking outside. Otherwise, they should be barefoot or if it’s chilly, with a nice pair of warm socks and a blanket.
  • Specialty burp cloths – this is a waste of money and you will likely never use them. Those swaddlers you got, those are going to be your everything, just use those!
  • Sink Flower Bath Pillows – your baby is going to outgrow this super fast. You’re better off investing in a staged baby bath that can fit over your tub. I really loved my Fisher Price Baby Bathtub because I was able to use it from day one and still am!